Validate One Another

We have many roles in life. Many of those roles require that we give of ourselves, often with nothing in return to refresh and regenerate our energy levels. Some days it feels like we have nothing left to give. Those are the days when self-care is critical. Taking time to recharge by intentionally planning down time may be just the thing required (that to-do list can wait a few hours) whether or not anyone else steps in to help us. We really can’t be as effective for others when we aren’t taking care of our own needs.

Other times, giving is the energizing factor. Being a positive influence on someone who is feeling the weight of their own burdens is like a free refill. It costs us nothing to give a compliment – a sincere compliment, that is. And the funny thing is, when we give validation to others without expecting anything in return, it seems to not only NOT drain our reserves but actually refills them. Just seeing the face of another light up when they have been heard and understood – seen and felt – is worth the tiny amount of energy we expend, and can maybe even expands our own resources. Try it!

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