Validate Your Pain. We don’t hear that everyday, especially when we’re going through something that contains pain, either emotional or physical. We usually hear, “be strong,” “it can’t be that bad,” or “you’ll have to learn to live with it.”
I found an article that resonates so clearly with my experience, that acknowledging the pain is the very first step to getting through it. True, it’s been said that we attract what we spend the most time thinking about, even if we’re trying to think of a way to avoid it. But, the more we ignore pain the more it refuses to go away. When we try to “tough it out,” pain doesn’t just go away like a rejected friend, it takes up residence and it’s not the ideal roommate. So check this out, there’s a link to the whole article at the bottom. Leave a comment, whether you agree or disagree.
VALIDATING YOUR PAIN IS THE FIRST STEP TO SANITY, STRENGTH & HEALING
- Acknowledgement first, analysis second. If you have a reaction — a rush of emotion, a dark thought lunges in, a curious question circles your mind, your stomach flips, or your heart goes ba-boom — then something is really actually, for real, for sure happening to you. You’re having an experience that is true for you. Never mind qualifying how justifiable or sane your painful or fearful reaction is, just notice that it is really happening — because denying it is a form of insanity.
- Endurance can be a very unwise choice. As inevitable as emotional and physical suffering is, it doesn’t always serve to make us stronger — sometimes it just wears you right down. Sometimes, the test of strength is to say “This isn’t working,” the millisecond it’s not working.
- Believe your pain. It’s not a friend you want to invite over, but when it does show up, it always — always — brings you precious information about what’s best for you.
- Dare to be high maintenance. I bet you’re invincible in many areas of your life. But when you need it, ask for special treatment.
- You want people on your team who believe you. I have friends who would be dead now if they didn’t keep looking for a doctor who believed what they said or how their body was responding. Keep searching for a lover who understands your vision of partnership, a collaborator who can see your dream, friends who are tuned in enough to say, “Is everything okay?”
Healing happens in resonance, not opposition.
If it hurts, it hurts.
by Danielle LaPorte, read the rest here.