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Grieving Loss of Health?
Injury and illness are losses that need grieving.
There are at least 43 losses which can produce the range of emotions we call grief. The long list includes:
- Death of a loved one
- Divorce or end of a relationships
- Major financial changes
- Loss of health
Grief is normal and natural, but many of the ideas we have been taught about dealing with grief are not helpful, for example:
- Time heals all wounds
- You must grieve alone
- Be strong
- Don’t feel bad
- Replace the loss
- Just keep busy
We have known people who have waited 10, 20, 30, and 40 years and still didn’t feel better. We know that they would tell you that not only had time not healed them, but that it had compounded the pain. The other five myths carry equally unhelpful messages.
Recovery from loss is accomplished by discovering and completing all of the undelivered communications that accrue in relationships. Completion of pain caused by loss is what allows us to let go and move on. It is almost impossible to move on without first taking a series of actions that lead to completion. Before taking the actions to completion, it is important to look at and often dismiss some of the ideas or myths that we have tried to use with loss, but have not worked.
The Grief Recovery® program creates the safety and the correct action choices that help people move beyond the pain caused by loss. Together we can help you to take a look at old beliefs about loss; to look at what other losses have affected your life; and to take new actions which lead to completion of the pain attached to the recent loss, or the loss that occurred long ago.
For more information about The Grief Recovery® program, please contact me.
Sue Hasker – Injury Healing Coach
Certified Performing Edge Consultant
Certified Grief Recovery Specialist
Injury ~ A New Beginning?
Is it possible that your injury and the healing process – while disruptive and frustrating – could be the start of a new way of looking at life? It was for me. Granted, breaking my ankle in a remote rain forest in another country (on another continent!) was scary. Getting home to obtain proper treatment was a nightmare. But there was a silver lining for me BECAUSE I chose to look for one. I chose to be grateful for the new people that have become part of my life and a new understanding of what other people are going through when they are struggling with limitations. I changed, not only anatomically due to all of the surgical procedures I’ve endured, but from the inside out. It’s all a matter of mindset.
The following article may help you decide to change the way you view your recovery process. Ponder the ideas, anyway.
Gratitude, Faith, and Clarity of Purpose – the most powerful statement
by A.M. Sall
“Things might have been worse”This is the most powerful, dynamic, revolutionary statement you could ever make in your life.
But first, deciding to take an inventory your life will lead you to put down in front of you two parts of your life:
1. the good things: positive
2. the bad things: negativeDo you think your life might have been better or worse?
This is a choice for you to make. But if you put every thing down and carefully examine it, you will realize things certainly might have been worse.
“I was complaining that I had no shoes till I met a man who had no feet.”
(Confucius)For example, you have lost your job but you are in good health: you might have lost BOTH health and job.
Now, the mere fact that you are faced with a choice means you are in a dynamic situation, the possibility to decide for yourself, to assert yourself, to test your sense of purpose. You are FREE to decide. Yes, it is up to you to decide whether things might have been better or worse.
If you decide that things might have been better and things had indeed been better, you wouldn’t have felt the need for change: you would have carried on, unconscious and happy (!?)
If your “present” is better than it might have been, then there is no reason why your “future” should not be better than your “present” (please read this sentence again
.
The only difference is NOW YOU KNOW, and this is what makes your situation so powerful, so dynamic, so revolutionary, so excitingly full of proactivity: You can decide, you can make choices, set goals and work to achieve your goals.
You are no longer groping in the dark and whatever you decide for yourself will come to pass.
Your future is a heavily pregnant lady and you don’t need an obstetrician, because YOU are the obstetrician — not just any obstetrician, but the most powerful obstetrician that ever was.
All the kids are yours and YOU can decide what they are going to be. This is a terribly exciting story, and you are the superhero.
Now is the time to exercise your sense of purpose.
Deciding that things might have been worse means you are ready for three things at least:
1. gratitude: you can be grateful because you see the positive side in all things. You realize there are more positives than negatives, so you don’t complain, you don’t explain, you are in control, the more so since you now know that your present situation is simply a consequence of your past thoughts;
2. faith: the realization that from now on, things CAN be better and you can decide things ARE GOING to be better. And your future situation is also a consequence of your present thoughts.
3. clarity of purpose: you know exactly what you want things to be.
You are ready for a life-change and you have faith, gratitude and a sense of purpose. These are the 3 legs of your Success Mindset Tripod.
Once you are ready for change, you have gone at least 60% of the way, you can get anything you want.
Attitude is the first thing to change and you have changed your attitude from negative to positive.
Clearly affirm your readiness for change.
From now on, anything you do will be informed by your faith, your gratitude, your clarity and unity of purpose.
Meditate a lot to convince yourself that you are on the right track.
This deep conviction will rid you of stress, tension, doubt and fear, your two worse enemies.
Eventually, you will impress everybody, including yourself!
Deep conviction will bring you into agreement with yourself, the only person you really have to agree with, after all. This is what I call “unity of purpose”.
And once you agree with yourself, you’ll find it much easier to agree with anybody else – contrary to what some people may think.
Now is the time for you to decide what part of your life you want to change, be it making money, losing weight, relationships, or anything else.
Now is the time to set your goals, and take action to achieve them.
But never forget that you have already gone 60% of the way – readiness for life-change, which was obtained through making a balance-sheet of your life and deciding that things might have been worse (past + present) and that things CAN and indeed ARE GOING TO get better (present + future)
And things are truly going to be better than they could ever be, simply because NOW YOU KNOW.
Always remember “things might have been worse” — and be grateful, confident and purposeful.
Then move forward and upward, and build your life with your Success Mindset Tripod!
Lead your life and don’t allow yourself to be led by your life.
A. M. Sall – author, coach, success mindset philosopher with 30+year experiences -as a translator, teacher, traveler, musician, writer, plus crosscultural awareness, worldwide ancient spiritual traditions… Success Mindset Philosopher A.M.Sall helps you “be whatever you want to be and get whatever you want to get. ”
http://www.health-beauty-wellness.com/positive.htm
Sue Hasker – Certified Performing Edge Consultant
Injury & Surgery Healing Coach
EFT for Sports Performance & Injury Recovery

No matter what sport you play; golf, tennis, baseball, basketball, football, hockey, soccer, track and field, or any other athletic endeavor there’s one thing for certain:
You would love to reach your full potential in the shortest time frame possible.
What if I told you that sports performance can be enhanced in just minutes a day using a simple technique that has been tested by professional and amateur athletes worldwide, with amazing results.
The technique I’m referring to is called Emotional Freedom Techniques or EFT.
For the first time anywhere Sports Performance Pioneer, Stacey Vornbrock is sharing the amazing protocols she’s developed to help hundreds of professional and amateur athletes play their best in every sport imaginable.
This is not some pie-in-the-sky, wishful thinking information.
The Breakthrough Performance Sports Manuals will show you the exact steps to take to turn the blocks that are keeping you from playing your best into breakthroughs.
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Here’s what the Breakthrough Performance Sports Manuals can do for you:
- Fine tune your game and play better than you’ve ever dreamed possible.
All you have to do is follow the easy to use protocols in this manual.
- Breakthrough Performance Sports Manuals will show you how to eliminate soreness after playing or working out.
Imagine feeling completely energized and refreshed rather than physically and mentally fatigued after working out or after playing.
- Recover from injuries in record time.
You’ll learn how to tap to rid your body of the trauma, emotions and the memory of protection that are locked at the cellular level after being injured.
- Give yourself the chance to perform your best every time you play.
You can depend on tapping for any sports challenge you face. Once you start using EFT you’ll feel clearer and more focused right away.
- Reduce or eliminate struggles and play from a place of joy and confidence with better physical and mental stamina.
You will be able to relax and have fun. You’ll play with increased focus and be able to concentrate on those tough moments that mean the difference between winning and losing.
The best part is all skill levels will benefit. It doesn’t matter if you’re getting ready for the Olympics or just getting ready to have fun this weekend playing your favorite sport with friends.
The Breakthrough Performance Sports Manuals will help you play better and enjoy your sport more, guaranteed.
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Breakthrough Performance Sports Manuals come with complete written instructions on how to use the techniques effectively. Nothing is left out.
In just minutes a day you’ll clear out old blocks that are holding you back today and create breakthroughs that lead to consistent and enjoyable sports performance.
Your results are assured. All you have to do is tap!
EFT is quick to learn and easy to use, even while you’re playing.
You’ll never be at a loss for how to resolve a challenge once you put the ideas in the Breakthrough Performance Sports Manuals into practice.
Enjoy your sport more and play better quicker. It couldn’t be any easier.
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Sue Hasker ~ Injury & Surgery Healing Coach
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Sue Hasker~Performing Edge Coach
Sue Hasker is recommended by Dr. JoAnn Dahlkoetter, Stanford Medical Center
trained psychologist and best selling author of Your Performing Edge:
I had the unique opportunity to coach and work with Sue Hasker in 2009 as an advanced student in my Performing Edge Coaching Certification training program for the past several months.
I am extremely impressed with her work, and I would highly recommend Sue Hasker to any college or to any of my colleagues or clients. Our work together involved education and rigorous training around the Your Performing Edge Coaching method and general coaching techniques for working with a variety of complex client issues.
As a performance coach to Olympians and CEO’s, who has been on the medical staff of Stanford University Medical Center for 10 years, Sue was absolutely one of the most advanced and creative students I’ve had the opportunity to train.
Sue has all the qualifications I look for in a coach/clinician, and much more. She has extraordinary creativity and client conceptualization skills. In addition to being very responsible, dependable and dedicated, she is extremely talented and insightful as a clinical coach and internet web designer. In her assignments, she has been very prompt, organized, and even goes beyond what is required.
Sue is easy to work with, she offers creative ideas, and quickly finds solutions for any issue that arises. During our work together, she followed through with everything I asked of her, she was completely focused on our training, and always delivered superior quality assignments, by our deadline.
I highly recommend Sue Hasker for anyone who wants a high quality student, coach and a brilliant mind. Her work will far exceed your expectations.
Dr. JoAnn Dahlkoetter
www.PerformingEdgeCoach.comFree e-course available http://www.DrJoAnn.com
Sue Hasker – Certified Performing Edge Consultant
Injury & Surgery Healing Coach
Mind-Body Training TeleCourse for Energy and Focus
Not a competitive athlete? That’s okay!
EVERYONE can benefit from mental training to do your best in any situation. Your “PERFORMING EDGE” is that feeling you get when you are doing your best, when you are “in the zone” mentally and physically. It could be while you’re exercising, while doing your favorite hobby, or even while working on a project around the house or at your job.
What makes the difference between being “pretty good” at something and being “excellent”? It’s just a matter of training your mind to “see yourself doing it right,” focusing on what’s happening now to eliminate distractions, and talking to yourself in a way that brings out your very best.

JoAnn Dahlkoetter, Ph.D, best-selling author of YOUR PERFORMING EDGE and frequent ABC-TV Expert Commentator, works with numerous OLYMPIANS and top business executives. As a nationally recognized performance consultant, she has helped thousands build their confidence and realize their true potential.
In her telecourse, Dr. Dahlkoetter will provide expert advice for creating major breakthroughs in sports, business, health, and in life. She will present the latest information for optimizing mind-body performance, including her personal interviews with LANCE ARMSTRONG, and many OLYMPIC GOLD MEDALISTS.
What’s in it for YOU?
REALIZE YOUR POTENTIAL:
* Learn the winning strategies of champion athletes
* Achieve the optimal state of mind to perform your best under any conditions
* Gain new motivation and confidence to break through mental barriers
* Create a healthy, balanced lifestyle, both personally and professionally
* Unleash the power of your mind, body, and spirit to realize your full potentiall
A COMPLETE SYSTEM FOR MIND-BODY FITNESS:
* ENERGIZE your mind and body
* FOCUS your effort and perform your best
* ALIGN your goals with your vision
* HEAL and recover quickly from stress/injury
* BUILD a healthy, balanced lifestyle
WHAT YOU’LL GET FROM PERFORMING EDGE COACHING:
* 4 Weeks of Training with Dr. JoAnn – by Teleseminar, Online, and Email
* Autographed Books and Visualization CD’s, DVD, and Audio Program
* Powerful Mental Training Exercises: Practice and discussion
* Valuable Handouts – Helpful Articles and Tips For Success
* Tools You Can Access During The Gold Level Training Process
* Performing Edge Action Guides
* Self-Assessment Tools
* How to Use the Your Performing Edge Method
* Visualization Audios and Scripts
* Training Videos
* Olympic Interviews
* Checklists for tracking your goals
* Weekly learning assignments and handouts
* Your Performing Edge workbook
* Your Performing Edge articles
* Post-Event assessments
Listen to a sample of what it’s like to work with Dr. JoAnn, download this interview by Gail Stolzenburg from
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When: Nov. 19 – Dec 17, 2009
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Sue Hasker http://www.HealYourBest.com
Using Positive Self-Talk to Conquer Any Goal
Do you feel like you are always talking yourself out of success? As soon as you start to set goals for yourself, do you suddenly have nagging thoughts about how you aren’t up to the task or how you simply aren’t qualified to carry it through?
If you have ever experienced either situation, you need to change the way you respond to your inner dialogue. Instead of obeying your negative commands, you can use positive self-talk to counter the negativity and overcome nearly all anxious thoughts.
Setting Goals and Sticking to Them with Positive Self-Talk
Are you initially filled with excitement when you first set goals for yourself? Are these thoughts then followed by self-doubt and self-defeating thoughts that stop you in your tracks before you even get started?
It can be difficult to make the most of your life when you are constantly talking yourself out of being a success. It can be frustrating and discouraging to have these thoughts constantly plaguing you. Many of us, in fact, don’t even realize we have them! All we know is that we don’t have the confidence to stick to our plans and reach our goals.
But there’s another way!
Positive self-talk is an effective way to set goals and ensure that you stick to them, even if you have never been able to do this before. The way this works is that you decide what goal is important to you, and then you plan the logistics of how you are going to attain this goal. When self-doubt starts kicking in, you will respond with affirmations that prove your success without surrendering to the negative pressure. Since you’re reading this article, it’s clear that you’re no quitter and you’re certainly not a failure, so start believing in yourself!
Re-Programming Your Mind
Affirmations are essentially positive statements that re-program your mind for the positive. The moment you have a self-defeating thought you’d be able to counter the negative with a motivating statement. An example of a positive affirmation is: “I am worthy of great success,” or “I see myself in the winner’s circle.” What this does is replace negativity with thoughts that will help you move toward your goals instead of further away from them.
Positive self-talk is easier to implement than you might think. You may not be aware of the severity of the negative dialogue currently within your mind. However, once you begin with positive self-talk, you will suddenly realize that you are self-sabotaging the goals you set for yourself from the minute that you make them. This process can open your eyes to exactly how much this inner conversation has been interfering with your life. You’ll feel hopeful that you can now set goals and surpass them.
Through positive self-talk you will be able easily set long and short-term goals for yourself. And when you use affirmations, you’ll have accessible tools to help you push yourself further than ever before. Learning to quiet negativity with positive thoughts is a great move toward setting and attaining future goals with ease.
Sue Hasker
Using Mental Training to Recover from Injury
People from all walks of life may at some point in their lives experience an accidental injury. Trainers and coaches have been using some powerfully effective mental training tools to help athletes return to their sport, while the rest of us have probably only just heard of them. The mental training tips listed in following article can be used by anyone who is experiencing a season of healing and recovery. Just exchange any references to athletes and sports with activities related to physical therapy and rehabilitation. Welcome to the exciting world of sports psychology!
Top
10 Training Tips
Excerpt from the book, Your Performing Edge: The Complete Mind-Body Guide for Excellence in Sports, Health, and Life, by JoAnn Dahlkoetter (Pulgas Ridge Press, 2002)
Free e-course available at http://www.DrJoAnn.com
Mindfulness: Practice being in the present moment. Remind yourself to stay in the here and now. Let past and future events fade into the background.
Power Imagery: Visualization is not something you do only in the quiet of your bedroom. Use your mental images throughout the workout to create feelings of speed and power. (e.g., When you come to an unexpected hill visualize a magnet pulling you effortlessly to the top).
Positive Attitude: Use everything in the workout to your advantage. For example, if another athlete passes you, tuck in behind and go with his or her energy for as long as possible. You may catch a “second wind” and be carried on to a new personal record.
Short-term goals: Focus on your immediate target. Break your training down into small, manageable pieces and begin to focus only on the first portion, not the entire workout (e.g., Say to yourself: “I’m just relaxing and getting my rhythm during the first mile”).
Association: Pay close attention to your tension level and training form. Do a body scan while working out and relax your tight muscles frequently. Ask yourself: “Are my shoulders and neck relaxed; how does this pace feel; how much energy is left in my legs?”
Pain Management: If you have “good pain” that is not seriously damaging your body, just shift attention to your breathing or cadence of movement, and let the discomfort fade into the background. You can also use the pain as feedback. Register it not as pain but as effort level. Say: “Now I know exactly how hard I’m working. I know how this pace feels. My body is doing what it should be doing.”
Process not Outcome: Look only at what you need to do right now (e.g., pace, breathing, concentration); your final time, place, or score will take care of itself.
Focused Attention: Be aware of distractions. Breathe out unwanted thoughts with your next exhale and re-focus your attention instantly on what is important.
Affirmations: Make positive self-statements continually. Negative thinking is quite common; everyone has an inner critic. Become aware of these thoughts early on. Don’t fight with them; simply acknowledge their presence, and then substitute a positive affirmation. (e.g., When you’re thinking: “This hurts too much, I want to lie down and die”; say to yourself: “This feeling is connected with going faster and doing my absolute best”).
Enjoyment: Celebrate your fitness and strength. When the competition arrives, let your body do what you’ve trained it to do. Remember that your goals are realistic. All you need to do is perform up to your capabilities.
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